Wednesday, June 11, 2008

Thursday, June 05, 2008

Random Thoughts (June 5th)

I've got some stuff on my mind, but probably not enough for a wholly dedicated post. Please excuse my lack of content, and moderately rambling format. Here you go:

Who is your family?

We're dealing with some issues right now in my family as it relates this topic. While I'll choose not to get into details and specifics, I'll give you with this to mull upon: for those that are married - do you consider your "family" to be you, your spouse and children? For a little more info: some family members are dealing with some stressful, external issues right now in their marriage and both of them seem to be running back to their kin-folk - not always to each other for initial support and counsel....and I find it strange.

When you take your marriage vows, and look each other in the eyes, you become the others' point person. The family you were born into doesn't go away, or lose importance, it's just your new spouse becomes your primary concern/partner. IMHO, it has to be that way. You can't have your spousal decisions second guessed by a Mom, Dad, Brother, Sister or Grandma. At least that's what I think? Am I wrong?

Keane - late to the party.

I know that the band Keane has been around for some time, and that I'm late to the party with this statement: but I'd put the 6-song arch of Somewhere Only We Know, Bend and Break, Let it Slide (my personal favorite), Your Eyes Open, This is the Last Time and Crystal Ball against anyone other band's portfolio right now. Please check them out.

Sen. Hillary Clinton vs Barack Obama

When a golfer wins a tournament before everyone is finished, do the other golfers "have" to concede in order to complete the win, or is the tournament OVER? I've never been more perplexed than to watch the coverage of Hillary's non-concession. FYI, Barack has more votes, he doesn't need to hear from her.

What Should I Do with My Life?

As some of you may or may not know who frequent this blog, but I recently went through a job search and have a book for those who are in that situation that I recommend very, very highly: Po Bronson's: What Should I Do with My Life?

It is a fantastic look at ordinary people and the process they've used in their life to answer that question and whether they're completely content even now. It is powerful, moving and fantastic.

Final Thought:

Is it wrong that I offered my seven (7) year old son $100.00 to shave his head for his last soccer game into a real mohawk?


Waiting for the Great Leap Forward

I was a big fan of Billy Bragg in college. Not so much now, but when I was in school, I had good friends that got me into his music.

My favorite Billy Bragg song, without question, is Waiting for the Great Leap Forwards. And while the meaning of the song is clearly evident when you listen, I'm applying it liberally to my life right now.

My job is going to require me to move to North Carolina. (The Great Leap Forward). I'm coming into the company at the Director level and if I want to either rise to VP or add more responsibilities, I need to be at HQ.

However, getting from the ATL to NC is going to be very difficult and my wife ripped the band-aid right off and within 30 days, we'd decided to move, hired real estate agents, spent over $30K fixing the house up and had the house on the market.

As much as we don't want to leave, and as strange as this sounds, this move would be a huge financial GAIN for us. We've got very strong equity in our house and are going to downsize our next home so we can have greater discretionary income at our disposal. So as difficult as it will be to leave our friends, family and church here, the sooner we get to NC the better off we will probably be.

I will continue to update as best I can and ask you to pray or send us your good wishes as we'll need them in full over the next 3-6 months.

"...If no one out there understands / Start your own revolution and cut out the middleman..."


Friday, February 01, 2008


One of my wife's and my favorite shows is 30Rock. Tina Fey, who is fantastic, has a saying for whenever anything goes wrong and it is "blurg". Naturally, my wife and I have now adopted that phrase for ourselves. So what I'm about to share is a big ol' blurg.

I lost my job. Blurg.

But here's the thing, I never, ever really liked my job. As a matter of fact, a good friend of mine told me "it seemed like every time you told me about it you were trying to sell yourself in the process." It was risky, with a startup company. I was the first salesperson they hired and they through money at me that numbed me to some now, in retrospect, obvious issues (pay check problems, business ethics, business plans to achieve revenue).

The last few months have been challenging to say the least and it came to a head last week when we agreed to part ways. And my definition of "agreed" is they said "you've got to go" and I said "okay".

I think the scariest part for me, after looking at it for a few days is this: I would have never left if they didn't ask. As miserable as I was, and as frustrated as my day to day dealings were, I would have stayed for....well forever.

So the question is this, what does that say about me? Am I lethargic? Am I truly risk averse? Do I accept my job as just that - my job?

I don't know the answer to any of these right now, but thankfully have time to figure them out with some speed (but not rushing). As I've posted before, we are good with our money and can take a few months to make this next career choice count. I told a buddy that my career in IT Sales has become like a piece of chewing gum that has finally lost its last bit of flavor. I'm going to need to put a new piece of gum in my mouth, but that gum can be many different styles or flavors.

What I am sure of is this: I'm 36 years old, been married for 12 years with a 9 & 7 year old to take care of. They can take me making less money, they can take me being around a little less, but they can't take me spending 8-10-12 hours a day doing something that I don't enjoy. My family needs to know (and truthfully I do as well) that my time away from them every day has meaning, both to me and the people I work for and touch.

Please pray for God to guide me and filter the right opportunities to me, while not just allowing me to "sit around" and wait for jobs to magically appear.

Christian (aka Ron)

PS - I'll be around to write more than I had thought now as it is the one thing that keeps me sane and keeps my mind sharp. You decide if that is good or not............